What exactly are you saying? - Are you more concerned with being right or good?

What exactly are you saying? - Are you more concerned with being right or good?

This whole controversy with Chik-fil-a has stirred up a lot in my heart. And though I've avoided it like the plague, I think it's time to chime in...

I have a lot of different thoughts about this situation (and the topic at hand), but not many that really matter. I sincerely try to step back from myself and see things from multiple perspectives. Ultimately, I understand that the way I feel about things is of little regard to anyone other than me.

When I look at the life of Christ from what the Bible tells me, I see someone who spends very little time addressing the "do-nots" and an enormous amount of time addressing the "dos." I try to model my life in the same way. Why spend time focusing on what I shouldn't be doing? I find that there is enough to keep me occupied just when trying to do everything I should be doing.

I think most people see that you could justify virtually any behavior by singling out bible verses. What I find most relevant in a circumstance like this, though, comes from 1 Corinthians 10:23: "'I have the right to do anything,' you say- but not everything is beneficial. 'I have the right to do anything'- but not everything is constructive."

To me, this issue is not at all about agreeing or disagreeing with gay marriage, it is entirely about asking "is this a beneficial use of my time and talents?" I have to answer that with "no." When I meet with God hear his voice, I don't expect to hear, "Well done, my child; you kept a multitude of gays and lesbians from homosexual marriages." Rather, what I am set on hearing is, "Well done, my child, you showed love to a multitude of people."I think we have the tendency to take our efforts to please God too far and, in turn, become the face of unlove to those who need it the most.

About a month ago I posed a question on Facebook asking, "Is it more important to be good or right?" It didn't get many responses, however, many of my friends have answered it the last two weeks. Your decision to be right (if this is what you deem is right) has overturned your decision to do good. Unfortunately, that puts a lot of my friends at odds against me. But in the end, what is it that we hope to accomplish? You may look at your actions now and think that you are doing good and simply standing up for what you believe in, but I know you're hurting at least a handful of people I love (and doing so in an exceptionally proud way). So what is beneficial about any of this? And why are we spending our time with it instead of helping people in need? I simply can't reconcile the mission of Christ to a mission of unlove. Especially when I know there are plenty of good things and organizations to support which hurt no one.